Tuesday, November 13, 2018

Gratitude ~ Acrostic Poem



Give the day a chance to 
Really open your eyes to the world
Around you, to the moments in front of you
Take it all in
Invite in the joy and peace
Trust in what is
Unveiling itself to you
Dare to find the blessing, 
Even if you are amidst a stormy season

A Loving Kindness Message ~ On Gratitude


 
Take a moment. Close your eyes.  Breathe deeply.  Let it out.  Tell yourself... 

~May you find peace and blessing in the moment you are in~
~May you find grace and gratitude in the storms you are facing~
~May you be wild and free in love and growth~
~May you see and feel the blessing of a grateful heart~
~May you be filled with gratitude each day you face~

Homeschooling ~ Awesome App Idea


Part of our curriculum this year is a focus on reading, sight words, and phonics.  While I used to teach the reading part of the curriculum in my classroom to Pre-Kindergartners when I find a good app to assist along the way, I will turn to that for guidance.

Well, I have found two great apps.  One is called Alphabet Aquarium, the other is Reading Eggs/Mathseeds.

I found Alphabet Aquarium when my oldest was about 2 1/2.  He has a love of learning and questioning, so this app was a great introduction to letters.  I didn't use it a lot, but when I did he loved it.  He was a bit jealous of baby brother and me nursing, so it provided for a distraction free time while I nursed and he would still be doing something educational.

Now, brother is 3 and wants to be like his older brother who is doing reading and math lessons.  So, he has gotten into Alphabet Aquarium.  He too loves it.  I wish I could find a similar concept for number learning as well.

Alphabet Aquarium has 5 activities to do with each letter.  First you match the letter, then you build the letter, next you make an animal that starts with the letter, and the last two are matching activities where you match a picture of an object that starts with the letter to the outline.  It is a great blend of activities to use when you are just getting into letter recognition.  Oh, and the letters are all upper case letters.

My oldest uses Reading Eggs and Mathseeds.  Both go together usually when you buy the subscription.  But they both go through all the necessary components to reading and math through fun, interactive, repetition, and practice activities.  Each map reveals the next level to build upon the foundation that begun in map 1. 

I know, I know, but it's technology and don't you understand the issues that go with using it?

Yes, yes I do.  And I will say, we limit the amount of time they get used and how long each time.  My youngest will do a few letters a couple times a week.  My oldest gets to do one Reading Egg lesson and one Mathseeds lesson each week.  Occasionally he will do two lessons.  But if he is doing stuff on the ipad, he doesn't get any T.V. that day.  When it comes down to it, they are each maybe on it for an hour a week max.

If they are going to be using technology, they are going to be learning from it.

At this point, my oldest has been using Reading Eggs and Mathseeds on Mondays and Fridays since the start of the school year in September.  Before that he would use it on and off, but not consistently.  He is currently reading at Kindergarten age (which is a Kindergartner), has 17 of 200 sight words, and has 94 of 237 phonic skills.  Not bad for 8 weeks in and once a week for Reading Eggs.

What apps have you found to be helpful for your home school?

Anyone know a good number app for a 3 year old to work on number recognition, counting, and creating the number?

Thursday, November 8, 2018

Time Change ~ Switching into Savoring the Slow


As we enter into the fifth day of daylight savings time ending, I am left wondering.  Why is it such a tough thing to work through?  And why do we still even have it?

Throughout the year we are faced with moments where we can slow down, busy moments, moments where we wish we could slow down, and moments where we wouldn't mind having a fuller schedule.

Is it one of those, the grass is greener on the other side?  Or, at least greener until you are standing in it, surrounded?

We have usually kept our schedule of activities, adventures, things to do pretty flexible and open.  Sure, some weeks are packed from Sunday to Saturday with outings, but than we dial it back and hang closer to home for a bit.

What is keeping you from savoring slow and slowing down, more often?

As I sat there, just a few days into the daylight savings time ending (despite the extra hour, I dislike the idea of daylight savings) I am looking at the week ahead, knowing that last week we were home a lot and this week we have a full week.

And yet, I feel a sense of loss of motivation, energy, and just wanting to hunker down at home more.  The lack of sun, the colder weather, the snow already flying makes me feel it even more.

I go through moments where I try to intentionally slow down, but it is usually some outside aspect or when I truly listen to my body that I make the shift.  However, it is usually only a short period of time.

Here we are, closing in on the end of another year.  I look back and often wonder, where did it all go and wonder why we didn't get certain things done or why did it go so fast or how are we already to November.

It seems as if time speeds up from the day after Halloween until like the middle of January.  We get caught up in the hustle and bustle of holidays and season change.

But what would it look like if we instead, slowed it down and kept it slow?  Refocus, reset, rest, revive

What if we changed our perspective, from how much can we get done, load the calendar, that we have to be a part of the hustle and bustle to more of a let's be in the moment, listen to ourselves to the others around us, and be okay with having some empty time slots?

What if we let this switch carry us through beyond the new year?

It has become common place to respond to the question, how are things going? with a busy, crazy, good or great.  But why?  Why don't we respond with an okay, alright?  And why do we feel guilt for not packing the schedule tight?  It is almost like a badge of honor, the more stuff we have going on the better things are, the better we look, etc.

So with this time change, as we head into the holiday season, let's change our perspective.  Let's slow things down, be present, set up space for things to not be filled to the brim.  Let's instead fill ourselves, loved ones around us with presence and moments.

But beyond that, let's keep it going.  Let's keep this slower pace going in the year to come.  Allowing for the ebb and flow of those sometimes extra busy weeks or moments, but still coming back to a slower point.

What would you do if you slowed down?  How would you fill yourself, your family, your friends?  How would you let go of the to do lists and just be present?

Let's make space and time for the things we truly want to fill our time slots.




*Photo credit: Encouragement at a Glance from KTIS*






Friday, November 2, 2018

Season of Gratitude


As we get closer to Thanksgiving, we tend to show our gratitude more and more.  Letting ourselves focus throughout November, we create a one a day post of what we are grateful until the end of the month or even a photo a day challenge of what we are grateful for or even find a creative project that we do daily with the theme of gratitude.  Sometimes, we wait until Thanksgiving to unload, around the table, the things we are grateful for.

But what about the rest of the weeks, months...the rest of the year?  Shouldn't we be thinking and sharing about our gratitude more often, even daily?

I have worked on gratitude as a daily practice on and off over the years.  I would write a list of things I was grateful for each night, or write a sentence, or even try to use November to focus on gratitude.  Through it all, I found that when I was consistent I felt uplifted and energized.  However, I also found that when the daily life came into play, it was usually the first thing I would skip.

I recently went through a 7 day Gratitude is my Superpower course with Shawn Fink leading the course.  After going through it and with the start of November, it got me thinking.

Am I grateful, like truly grateful?  Yes, I am.  But do I always talk about it, or write about it, or ask what others are grateful for?  Um...no, not really.  Do I share about it, think about, recognize it every day?  Honestly, no.

I know I have a lot to be grateful for.  But I also know I could do better acknowledging it.  Even if I don't write about it each day, at least say it out loud or in my head before bed.  Beyond that, I could think on it and acknowledge throughout the day, in the moment sort of thing

You see, in order to cultivate a heart of gratitude one must practice gratitude daily.  For each of us, this may look a little different, but it is something we each can do.

Even in the hardest of hard, those storms we weather, we can still find something grateful.  Yes, it is hard to see sometimes, but there is something there if we focus for a moment, not on the storm, but on gratitude. 

But in those moments opposite the storms, we can show our gratitude as well.

Where it gets lost most often is in those moments in between.  Where everything seems to be just going alright, nothing big happening in either direction...kind of like an even keel.  That is when we tend to let our gratitude fade away.

No matter where we are at, no matter the season, no matter the time of year we can find one thing each day to be grateful for.

So why wait until the first of November, or until Thanksgiving Day?  Why not start now a gratitude practice that you can continue beyond November?

Yes, go ahead and do the creative gratitude projects throughout the year that match up with seasons or holidays or the month.  But just add them into your daily gratitude practice.  So when the season or the holiday or the month ends, your gratitude practice continues.


How do you create a daily gratitude practice?  Keep it simple, keep it visible, keep trying, and start where you are.  Remember, there are going to be days that you miss, but keep coming back to it.  Just like anything new, it takes time and practice to form consistency.

Find a journal.  Find something for you to write in that you like, the feels right to you, that allows you the space you need.  I have a few of those one a day sentence books where you write one happy thing or thought to remember or one thing you are grateful for.  They are great, also an easy way to get started.  For me though, I have found I need more space to write, so I choose journals or notebooks.  Even your phone can be a great place.  I don't know of any apps specifically for gratitude practice, but last night I pulled up a new memo and type a quick list of a few things I was grateful for.

Set up a space to have your journal, even a few pens ready to go.  Make it in your line of sight throughout the day.  It will serve as a reminder to take a pause (even if it's a short one) to jot down a few things.  I have mine on my coffee table and even got gel pens (haven't used them in over 15 years) to go with it, making it more fun and colorful.

Remember, gratitude practice can be done any time, anywhere.  While waiting at a stoplight, out on a walk, during a meal.  When you start opening up your eyes, your heart, your mind you begin to see a different perspective around you and can find joy, gratitude in the little things throughout the day, even amidst the chaos and busy.

You can write a list, you can write a sentence, you can take a picture.  Do it in a way that works for you.  I am finding that I enjoy giving a little more detail.  While at times, a list is what I have time for.  You can even write on a question a day if that is what fits your flow.

Awhile back I found a new perspective on daily gratitude practice.  It came from Dave Ramsey.  His idea was to answer the following questions: Today I am most grateful for..., Today I am most thankful for..., I found delight in/when..., I loved when...

Since finishing the 7 Day Gratitude is my Superpower course I have found a reset in my daily gratitude practice.  It isn't put away in a basket under the coffee table.  I have my journal out and pens ready.  I try to take a pause in the afternoon to write instead of waiting until the kids go to bed.  While sometimes that is when it happens, after they go to bed, I have also found that by the end of the day I am just ready to unwind and it gets lost.  I combine the ideas from both Dave Ramsey and Shawn Fink.  I use the questions Dave suggested and then go into detail the way Shawn suggested.

This is how it works best for me, for now.  Is it possible that it will change?  Of course.  As everything changes, so too will this.  But I am planning on keeping it going in some form, even if I am on a trip (which is usually when I would set it aside completely, then take a bit to come back to it).

Do you have a daily gratitude practice?  Share yours below in the comments. 

Have you thought about starting one?  What is getting in your way of starting?

Have to tried to keep one, but somehow it seems to get set aside more often than not?  What trips you up along the way?

Setting up a strong foundation of gratitude can carry over into every area of your life, as well as those around you.  I encourage you to go beyond November, beyond Thanksgiving to grow and continue your gratitude each day, throughout the day, in your own way.






Thursday, November 1, 2018

Checking In


I have been a bit absent in my writing and posting this month.  As it seems with the change of seasons, I found myself in some seasonal changes and adjusting.

I decided, sort of by choice, to just let whatever scheduled posts I had go out and see where that would end.  I am looking back now and see that there has not been a lot this month and here we are headed into the evening of the second to last day of the month.

I have been working behind the scenes, or should I say, in real life.

But through it all, I have realized how much I miss putting my fingers to the keys, opening up, and seeing where it all goes.

I am grateful to have this time to write, to take you along on my journey, to grow, to learn, to be.

Thank you to all who follow along.  Thank you to all who check in and see what is new.  Thank you for reading.  Thank you for staying by, even when I don't post as often.

As we head into November, and some busy, some crazy weeks ahead, please continue to join me on this journey.

I have lots to write about, to share, to invite in.  So where you are in your journey, maybe we will find some type of understanding, connection, inspiration, motivation.  Hoping, dreaming, being.

Until the next post, may you find the grounding you need.

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Belong ~ An Acrostic Poem


 
Believe in becoming the you you were meant to be, creating strong branches

Embrace the path before you, knowing the pain of feeling empty, but the healing of being enough

Letting your light truly shining through, lightening your load by letting go, releasing what is holding you back

Opening the doors ahead, daring to dream, finding your tribe

Nourishing your mind, body, soul

Grounding your roots, growing your sturdy branches, giving grace with a focus on gratitude

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

A Loving Kindness Message ~ On Belonging


Take a moment. Close your eyes.  Breathe deeply.  Let it out.  Tell yourself... 

~May you find comfort where your heart takes you~
~May you find connection, even through a simple smile while out and about~
May you find your grounding spot, grow your roots, let your branches grow free & strong~
~May you know that you have a place to be truly you, a place of belonging~

Thursday, October 4, 2018

Finding Balance in Life ~ Especially in Marriage



Finding the balance between you, your marriage, and your kids can sometimes be a tough thing.  But when you stop to think about it, having a solid marriage is something that your kids need just as much as anything else.  They also need to you be you.  They also need to see you be a parent.

Is it possible to do all three?  Yes!  But, no they may not happen equally every day of the week.  Sometimes the balance shifts focus into one area heavily due to the time of season you are in.  Maybe you have a big work project that needs a little extra focus, but once done, things will even out.  Or maybe you have put your marriage on the back burner for far too long so finding the balance again is tough.  Or maybe a kiddo is sick.  The list goes on  for why our focus shifts the balance.

But the balance doesn't have to stay in one area forever.  It can and will shift around.  But want to know something interesting I have found?  If you make sure to include time for yourself, to dream, to create, to do your hobbies it is easier to put a good amount of focus on your marriage.  And vice verse.  If you make sure to invest in your marriage, the other pieces will find a balance point.

It is kind of interesting how investing into your marriage can greatly effect all the other areas of your life.  You put good in, you will get good out.  That is a phrase we use a lot with our kids. 

Beyond it all, communication is definitely needed.  Just talk, talk about it all.  Your dreams, your hopes, the mistakes, the hard stuff, the day...all of it.  Talk about it all.

Set up a good marriage foundation.  Then when you add kids, it will still be there for you to come back to, for your kids to learn from.  But don't forget to keep investing in your marriage through the years.  Let it grow, let it build.

What do you do to keep investing in your marriage?  What do you do to keep it off the back burner, always simmering on low?

Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Peaceful ~ Acrostic Poem


Plant yourself in fertile soil
Even in the midst of chaos, storms, drought
Allowing yourself to grow, accepting what you can control and letting go of what you can't
Cultivating the richness, the balance, the calm: carving out the time to
Ensure that the calm can wash over you
Fulfilling you in all ways, in all areas ~ mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually: Finding grounding in the moments
Utilizing your bounty, beauty around you, your strength, your courage: Uplifting you
Letting you see calm, feel calm: Letting go where needing: Letting light in, loving yourself and those around you through all the twists and turns on this journey