Wednesday, November 26, 2014

This is What We Do & That's Okay

When you become a parent, even while you are pregnant, there are so many ideas out there.  So many how to and how not to.  Oh, and don't forget, everyone has their opinion of how to do stuff and are so willing to share (even when they don't have kids of their own).  The Internet, books, and people have so much to offer that sometimes it feels like we are failing or how we go about raising our kids is wrong.

It's not an all or nothing type of parenting.  It's parenting in the moment, while parenting in the long run.  While you may have the end goal in mind, like raising awesome adults, when you are in the moment you have to do what will work.  In the long run, it all works out anyways.  And deep down, you are a great parent and doing a good job.  Just listen to your gut and your heart and they will help guide you.

Here is a little something that I hope will help you feel more confident about your parenting skills.

Home birth or Hospital, Doctor or Midwife
If it works for you, that's okay
Cesarean or Natural delivery, Epidural or Nothing
If it works for you, that's okay
Co-sleeping or Crib
If it works for you, that's okay
Swaddling or Not
If it works for you, that's okay
Wearing your baby or Carrying your baby or Both
If it works for you, that's okay
Breast milk or Formula
If it works for you, that's okay
Purees, Baby led weaning, or Tiny bits of food
If it works for you, that's okay
Daycare or Stay at home
If it works for you, that's okay
Sleep training, CIO, or It's only a phase
If it works for you, that's okay
Cloth Diapers or Disposable
If it works for you, that's okay
TV or No TV
If it works for you, that's okay

I am sure the list can keep going.  Whatever you decide, decide what works for you, your little one, and your family.  Yes, they are only this little for so long and yes, this is only a phase, but try to get the most out of every day that you can in whatever way that you can. Try to end your day looking at what the good things from the day were.  Even though we make mistakes, take them, learn from them and grow.