Thursday, September 7, 2017

Under Construction

 
 We've done remodel projects before, this is nothing new to us.  But this time around we had two kiddos and a kitchen to be redone.  With the help of family and my hubby they got things going and through the toughest part.  Normally, I stay around to help out, but with two little kids, my help was best utilized by findign somewhere else to be.  Something that I had to be okay with.  I didn't really feel like I was much of a help, but having the kiddos out of the house for the week had a lot of benefits for everyone. 

By the end of the week, the kiddos were asking to go home.  I knew we'd be walking into everything being under constrction still.  Things were taking longer than we had anticipated.  But the kiddos and I were ready to be home.  Not that we didn't like being at the lake; it was simply that we missed daddy. 

We started the project August 19.  Today, a week into September, we are still under construction.  While the cabinets are in (all but one), there is no countertop, no sink, no dishwasher, and finishing details need to be done yet.  My bathtub doubles as a dishwaher, but at least the microwave and stove are working, and we still have gorgeous weather so we can cook outside.  Plywood and boxes make up my countertop, but in all honesty, as much as I want it done, it works for us right now and I am okay with that.


Today, I started making breakfast and had to step out of the kitchen for a moment.  When I came back i saw my two kiddos sitting at the dining room table playing.  The older one helped his brother into his high chair.  You see, before the remodel, the only sightline into the dining room from the kitchen was the doorway.  Now, the wall is gone and you can see straight through (which I love!).  While standing by the makeshift countertop watching the kiddos, I began to think. 

Aren't we in a state of under construction often throughout our lives?  As we grow and go through different stages, different seasons, it is like we are in remodel mode. 

My kitchen is under construction, and so are we. 

My oldest is 4 1/2, my youngest is almost 2.  Two years into two kiddos and I am totally feeling like I am under construction more often than not.  My parenting, my me, my everything around me is in some state of remodel when I think about it. 

I often feel like I have lost me since having the kiddos.  I am "Mom" "Mama!" "Mommy" all day long, I often loose sight on who Liz is.  Something I am working on.

My parenting is often chaging because my kids are changing (too quick sometimes) or because something different needs to be tried and I am trying to find the right fit.

Seasons change, projects come and go...where does that leave us as moms? as a family? as ourselves? or in whatever other roles we fullfill each day?

Though we are under construction often, where we have been, where we are, and where we are headed our always on our minds.  During these remodel times, these season changes, it is a good time to re-evaluate.  Look at where we are and where we want to head.  Take the time to figure out how to get there.  But also, take the time to slow down.  By slowing down, you can take the world and life in in a way that your kiddos do. 

Change is hard, but it can be good.  Going through these physical, mental, emtional, and spiritual construction times is what is need for us all to grow.  To reach our goals, hit the successes we have been wanting, and to learn.  No matter what age we are, we need to face these challenges.

Some of these phases are easier to take than others.  Sure, it can last a day, a week, a month, a year or more, we need that time.  While they may seem daunting, overwhelming, stressful, and more, it is that pressure that causes the most change and the desired outcome.  

You may not see it yet, the results of the remodel, but it will show it's self soon enough.  My kitchen already looks awesome and we like where it's headed.  Being finished will be the icing on the cake.  We work around the stresses of beinging under construction still by doing the things we love and making the most out of what we have.

Where are you under construction right now?  What do you need to finish?  Where do you want it to end up?