Tuesday, January 30, 2018
Moms, We Can Be Brave ~ We Can Raise Heroes
I have been looking into deepening my faith, helping my kiddos to develop theirs, and setting aside my fears. That is when the book "Brave Moms, Brave Kids: A Battle Plan for Raising Heroes" by Lee Nienhuis came into the picture.
Back in November I was offered the chance to be a part of the book launch team. I jumped at the chance to read along with other moms from across the country, some with itty bitty kiddos, some with grown up kiddos, some with grand kids.
Through reading the book, being a part of book discussions and utilizing the free resources that come with pre-ordering the book I have been able to grow on what I wanted in my faith and can begin helping my kiddos grow theirs.
(click here to pre-order, but do it fast because the freebie resources end today January 30, 2018 http://leenienhuis.com/brave-moms-brave-kids/?utm_content=buffer24bee&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer#preorder )
Despite how mom life goes, and well life with some major holidays from November until the first of the year and kids being sick, I was able to finish the book this past Friday. I will admit, it took me longer than I had hoped, but with life things are unpredictable. I also spent a lot more time taking in the first part, the part all about fear.
From the book I learned a new perspective on fear. Fear is a gift given to us from God. But, as Lee says "it is the enemy that takes it and turns it into anxiety, guilt, worry". Realizing this has helped me change my perspective on those strong emotions and slowly begin to learn how to control them or in all honest, recognize them. Then I can process them and figure out what is behind it. Pray about it and let it go.
Lee has taught ways to deepen my prayer and how to teach my kids that. Sure, we say grace and my kiddos say the "Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep" prayer. As my kids are growing we have added in talking about what we are thankful for each day and who we want to pray for, as well as what else we need to add to prayers depending on the season we are in. But my oldest has been doing the prayer for the past almost 5 years. He does it from memory (while rolling on the floor or skipping around his room). After going through the book, I know now how to equip them and teach them to pray and pray more deeply.
As mamas we are models. Monkey see, monkey do. We can talk, we can teach, but where are kids are more likely to follow is in our actions, in our literal footsteps. "Modeling faith begins with our children catching us believing God".
Believing God, is the first part of being BRAVE. Then we move into R: Reflect, A: Ask Forgiveness, V: Vigilantly Pray, E: Equip Them.
We work through the first part, our kids catch us and catch on, we can then equip them. What better way to show kids about forgiveness than to be the one to go first. Apologize when something goes wrong, when mistakes are made, emotions are off, when you are impatient, when you don't truly listen.
If you think about it we are warriors. We face battles every day. From inside forces in ourselves to outside forces (the ones within others around us) to outside forces beyond the walls of our house out in society. What armor are you putting on and how are you taking your stand?
After reading the book, I am finding myself praying differently and more deeply. Though I still do bullet prayers throughout the day. I start my day off with a scripture and prayer to go with. Then to end the day I give praise to God, give my thanks, ask him what I need, and close it out. I also do a special prayer over each kiddo each morning. I am hoping to start changing up my kiddos nightly prayer time to follow a similar path.
I am starting to memorize scripture and turn more to it when I feel in over my head or my emotions and anxiety run higher. I have these awesome brave cards with a scripture on one side and prayer on the other. I use one at a time, right now each relating to the letters of BRAVE until it feels right in my heart to move to the next letter. When I am done with those, I have a stack of cards I can just pick my way through.
The picture above is from our vacation. Hubby was driving and I was reading, kiddos were watching a DVD. Yes, it is flagged. I flagged stuff I want to write on, add to a prayer journal, find a way to have it in my line of site every day. My thoughts are scribbled in the margins. There things underlined, asterisked, bracketed. Questions I asked myself to think more deeply and to go back to afterward.
If you are looking for a book to add to your reading list, make sure to add this one. Pre-order now, by the end of today and get some awesome freebies. Otherwise, the book is officially released on February 1st.
You can head over to Lee's website to order. Yes, you can order from Target and Amazon, as well as many other book store options (see Lee's page for more options for ordering).
Here is Lee's page: http://leenienhuis.com/brave-moms-brave-kids/
Here is an amzon link: https://www.amazon.com/Brave-Moms-Kids-Battle-Raising/dp/0736970037/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1517367156&sr=8-1-spons&keywords=brave+moms+brave+kids&psc=1
This book has truly given me a diferent perspective on how to face the day and how to raise my kids all while having God as a part of our lives. Lee takes you through fear and anxiety, then works through what it truly means to be BRAVE, and finishes with how to take it into action and move forward with a plan for you, your kids, your family.
The book takes you into a deeper relationship with God and connects that with your kids through you. As moms we are warriors who face battles every day, in every form, from every direction. We need to stand, put on our armor, and be ready to face them through believing God, reflecting, asking forgiveness, vigilantly praying, and equipping our kids to do the same. As you read through the book you will read about real heroes, everyday heroes...not just ones found in the bible, but ones that Lee has come face to face with. We all have a true hero inside of us, let's raise our kids up to be BRAVE and to be true heroes.
If you pick a copy to read, let me know your thoughts.