Thursday, November 29, 2018
Holidays, Christmas Time, & Facing Battles While Finding True Meaning
The idea came to me recently while listening to a friend, who is a podcaster and blog writer. She was talking about battles as well and how to face them during this holiday season.
Like she said, and so have I, we all face battles. Every day, all day, throughout the year. Seemingly, the time between Thanksgiving and the end of the year there seem to be more battles we face.
Add in holidays, season shifts, extra time with family, gift giving, traditions, the shoulds we pile on ourselves, expectations, and those battles seem to multiply.
Sometimes we push so hard to make this time of year "perfect" but the reality is sometimes less than what we were expecting. We get caught up in the shoulds, the traditions, the things that have worked in the past, our own expectations, change, and so on. And when we push and push, the battles increase.
What is this time of year truly meant to be?
I know, holiday times can bring grief, frustration, anger, anxiety, fear, worry, guilt. They can be tough.
But they can also be and feel different. It starts with you. Your attitude, your perspective. That will carry through to the others around you, your spouse if you are married, kids if you have them, your family, your friends.
Do you really need to face every single battle in front of you? Are there some things you can let go of and avoid the battle altogether? Are there things you can change or stop this year to bring more calm to this time of year? Are there things you can do or change to bring more peace and joy? Are there things you can do to slow down instead of getting caught up in all the hustle of the season?
Where can you truly push? And yet, where can you pull back?
If some aspect of this all is important to you, then by all means, push and battle for it. But also, stop and think, do I really need to?
Because if you don't need to, then maybe let it go.
In a way, yes you do need to face each battle placed in front of you. But you also need to pause for a moment and really think about whether or not this battle is one that you can let go of.
Take what is most important and make decisions. Use those decisions to guide you through your battles.
Where can you ask for extra help? Where can you just let it go?
What would truly make this time of year filled with calm? Joy?
Take this time to work your way through it all. Then, as the holidays pass by and we begin a new year, you can take this concept along with you.
Pause, name it, look at it, decide.
Fight for what you can, when you can, where you can. But let the rest go.
Remember, is this something that will truly matter in 5 minutes? At the end of the day? Next week? Next month? Next year?